Understand your Partner

Understanding of the opposite Sex vital for marriage

Attractions between the sexes at workplace is natural. It often ends in premarital or extra-marital affairs, in the modern urban educated society. Whether it is the workplace or home, the heart no more remains chained. Societal barriers are jumped, causing break for trivial reasons. Couples are found battling in courts with no valid reasons.

The courts have been advising impatient couples approaching for divorce that they should not rush into divorce as Hindu marriage is sacred and there is a legal binding as well. Intolerance has been identified as the cause of divorce and other marital discord.

The psychology

Dr. John Gray, a relationship counselor is of the view that men and women differ in all areas of their lives. Not only do men and women, communicate differently but they think, feel, perceive, react, respond, love need and appreciate differently. They almost seem to be from different planets, speaking different languages and needing different nourishment. Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus.

Without the awareness that we are supposed to be different, men and women are at odds with each other. We usually become angry or frustrated with the opposite sex as we want him or her to be more like ourselves, we desire them to “want what we want” and “feel the way we feel.”

We mistakenly assume that if our partners love us they will react and behave in certain ways-the ways we react and behave. Don’t assume the other person knows how you feel. This attitude sets us to be disappointed again and again and prevents us from reconciling. It is therefore to understand the gender difference and appreciate the partner.

Men are motivated and empowered, when they feel needed, whereas Women are motivated and empowered when they are cherished. Sadly most of us do not understand each other leading to misunderstandings out of ignorance. There are a few who have some understanding but may not utilize it for creating a healthy relationship as a genuine desire to be honest is missing in most cases.

The study of Astrology has revealed that the causes for the type and quality of marriage are Karmic in nature. They are the karma’s of our earlier lives and can be traced from 1, 2, 4,5,7,8 and 12th houses of a horoscope where a pattern of planets emerges.

This pattern can be interpreted correctly be discerning Astrologer.

One can know through Astrology alone the reasons for quality of marriage by identifying the root cause, which in most cases, is a result of the deeds of our current birth or of our earlier births that a person carries from one birth to another. The suffering, on account of the curses that a person may have carried can be minimized and the happiness can be maximized from the karma’s of our present birth.